Traditionally, the engagement is a formal ceremony in which jewelry and dowries are exchanged. The families can choose to have the formal ceremony right after the couple is engaged and celebrate with a banquet reception later. We chose to have the formal ceremony on the same day as the reception, so a non-traditional family engagement party was held in Warren, Michigan at the Golden Harvest Chinese Restaurant. We chose a Chinese banquet hall because Chinese/Vietnamese weddings are typically held in such places, but since we are having our wedding at a non-Asian hotel, we wanted to celebrate the engagement this way.
My (Thao) family is mainly residing in Pennsylvania, where I spent much of my childhood life. He does not have too much family in the states so close family friends came to celebrate. I have adoptive grandparents who have been a significant part of my life. They drove all the way from North Carolina to have some yummy food and to meet my in-laws.
After we have this party, we formally take each other’s family members as our own, i.e. his mother is already my mother-in-law and I call her mom. Unfortunately, Kevin is already my brother, ok jk.
Here are some pictures of that party (click to enlarge) (all pictures):
On that day, we had a huge traditional banquet dinner! The dishes included:
Spicy Fried Squid
Spicy Fried Soft Shell Crab
Clams in Black Bean Sauce
Seafood Bird’s Nest
White Noodle With Sauce
Can you imagine? It was a HUGE feast. Ideally, we would have an 8-10 course dinner for the wedding, but at a hotel, that was near impossible! We had cake to celebrate my little sister’s 22nd birthday. (Note: She also made my outfit as a gift!) We had a fantastic time with everyone and want to thank you for travelling such long distances to make the occasion that much more memorable.
Here are some more pictures! (All pictures)
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